Just once more… yeah right
24 June 2009I’m hurting myself with the credo “just once more, then I will stop” and it’s brother “After X, I won’t do it any more”.
How many times have I (and others) said that, and yet continued to pursue whatever behaviour they want to stop, repeating that line.
The replacement should be “I’ve stopped doing that” or “I won’t do that anymore”.
The therapist I was seeing earlier in the year would say I should not beat myself up for what doing things that are quite normal. I should accept that I slipped up and just move on.
But I don’t do that well, particularly when I think of all the things I’m only doing because I don’t have a boyfriend, and how I am hurting my chances of that goal because of the things I’m doing.
Hi Paul, This blog post reminded me of the first episode of “Beautiful People” which was on ABC2 last thursday (if you missed it go to abc.net.au/iview and see it there) but the episode focused on the gay guys family and himself and the finishing bit is that all the things we do make us who we are. Why fight it. Your just being yourself. And if anything I don’t see or hear anything unusual (as a matter of fact I wish I could get up to some of the things you mention!) Sound all healthy and quite normal to me. I recommend the series and watching it will make better sense. From everything I read it would be something you would really like.